We all have an emotional attachment to our stuff. Sometimes healthy and sometimes very unhealthy. The trick is to take an honest look at everything that you own and decide how it makes you feel, why you keep and the emotional cost it has on the flow of your life.
How attached are you to your stuff?
- The more often you look or think about the item (of clutter) the stronger your connection
- The more hesitant you are about removing that item of clutter the stronger your connection.
- The longer you have had that item of clutter the stronger your emotional connection.
- The more painful the memory associated with that item of clutter the stronger your emotional connection.
- The more fearful you are about getting rid of that item of clutter the stronger your emotional connection.
Types of emotional clutter:
1. Emotional guilt clutter:
Usually gifts that are not liked come under emotional guilt. You keep them because they were a gift and would feel guilty if you gave them away. Shift your thinking to conscious sharing by giving away your unwanted gifts to those who really would value and appreciate them.
2. Fear of lack clutter:
You keep all kinds of stuff just in case. Just in case you might need it some day and just in case you couldn’t afford to buy another one. The fact that you haven’t used it in 2, 3 or 5 years doesn’t matter there is an underlying energy of lack. The energy of abundance means things are constantly coming into and going out of your life. Once you stop them going out of your life you stop the flow of abundance.
3. Unhappy relationship attached to clutter:
Keeping stuff from past unhappy relationships keeps you locked in the past, prevents new relationships coming along or weakens your current relationship. It also keeps a part of you tied to that unhappy relationship.
4. Depression clutter:
People with depression tend to have a lot of things stored on the floor. Stuff on the ground pulls your energies down and encourages you to withdraw from the world emotionally.
5. Addiction clutter:
Compulsive buying for the sake of it and addicted to sales and bargains without any thought or intentional purpose simply adds to the congestion and confusion already filling your home and life.
6. Need to impress clutter:
You feel your sense of self worth is reflected by the appearance and value of your living space. You might not even like any of your decorations or furniture pieces but they are the best and the most expensive and you feel if people like your stuff then they will like you.
7. Unhappiness clutter:
Buying stuff to make you feel happy again is a quick fix solution. It does not bring deep long lasting satisfaction to your life and the item you bought only brings happiness momentarily. Unhappiness clutter can then turn into guilt clutter when you realize a few days later you don’t really need it and feel guilty for buying it.
8. Emotional hiding behind your clutter:
Often people overcrowd their homes with so much stuff that they use it as a kind of shield to hide their true selves from the world. It keeps the attention away from them and directed towards all their hundreds and hundreds of nick knacks.
9. Denial clutter:
You refuse to believe that you actually have clutter. You keep acquiring more things but make no connection to the fact that it is clutter. You are in absolute denial that you never use it. Denial clutterers are often scared of change and believe their whole world would fall apart if they begin removing anything from their home.
10. Inherited clutter:
What can I say, its not yours, you didn’t ask for it and unless you absolutely love it then you shouldn’t have it in your home.
Hope you enjoyed this post and please know, you are welcome to email me anytime for a chat or to ask a question. I’ll do my best to help.
My email is email@example.com
Peace, love and chocolate, Carole
On my bedside table:
Judith Lasater has been teaching restorative yoga for over 20 years. Her book is a great place to start learning oreven fine tune your Restorative Yoga postures. It covers postures for headaches, menopause, stress, back pain, pregnancy and more. I so love this book- Relax and Renew: Restful Yoga for Stressful Times.
You can also grab Carole’s daily rejuvenation tip by clicking here
Or Click here to zoom back over to Rejuvenation’s Lounge front page
I Quit Sugar Cookbook:
Sarah Wilson, health practitioner, writer and TV presenter quit sugar as an experiment to support the health of her auto-immune disease. She noticed such a huge change to her health and emotions that she wrote an e-book and cookbook about it. Click here to check it out